The closing remarks at the club were made by our newest member Bro. An Gree , who said: “There is one trait of character, and all to common among us, that is very hurtful to ourselves and very trying to our associates. I do not call it a malady---nor a complex--- It is rather a habit of thought, or reflections when one’s attempts are not very successful, It is now called, “ SELF PITY.” No one admires it, and it surely does no good to anyone. Usually it is a figment of the imagination.
“One may reflect on, “I never had advantages, or I am not talented, or I am poor while others are prosperous and lastly, if I was only a member of the “lucky sperm club.” A sort of “odious comparison,” but not a just one. One assumes that all others are happy, or prosperous or content, when it may not be true. Even if true, why should I allow it to blight my peace, or my success. Why should I compare my “inside feelings” with others outside appearances?
“ I wonder if the poet had such people in his mind when he said:
“Twas ever thus from childhood’s hour,
I’ve seen my fondest hopes decay:
I never loved a tree or flower. But twas the first to fade away.
I never loved a dear gazelle, To glad me with its soft black eye, But when it came to know me well, And love me—it was sure to die.”
There it is. Other people’s hopes were realized and their “dear gazelles lived and loved but mine, Oh! dear! Poor me!Isn’t it pitiable?
“I like a baby and like the innocent prattle of the little ones, but when grown ups put on the “baby act” or adopt “baby talk” I am completely disgusted. Be a man or woman! The sun shines on the good and the evil. The rain falls on the just and unjust.” So, “ Be still sad heart and cease repining. Beyond the clouds is the sun still shining; Thy fate—is the common fate of all. Into each life, some rain must fall.
(As an aside: One should not as far as Bro. An Gree “He has not had just a little rain in his life it has been a downpour.”)
AS REPORTED BY SCRIBE JOE TODD 2009